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Thank you mellyjelly/drumthings for this fantabulous skin=D

30 nov:

the red carpet is out, though the shape isnt linear, slightly bent for some reason

school values posters & CCA posters are up

me and amirul at e student leadership board, where its really taking shape =)

full dress rehearsal :

welcome flash video with the TK brand on it: 'your potential, our purpose'

distribution of coffee table books durng 'celebrate the excellence'
i liked the video they showed with the lyrics, it's super meaningful as what mr lee said.

countdown: 1 day

cherishing history,

redefining excellence

council farewell party:

days leading up to feastfusion@tk on 2 dec:

27 nov--
choir practicing on stage
this is super cool. its a magnetic mural wall for SM Goh to sign on the plague and place it on the wall. and the band fanfare will start, the ncc ppl will start their cannons with CO2 emitting (which mr tan gt a shock for e first time when he was standing nx to the mouth of the cannon)

there will be a photo-shoot wif e dancers, then i'll lead the entourage (however u spell it) from the wall to the tentage. i like the music by the band. sounds very grand hahas.. =)

aft that e impt ppl will make speeches etc n e coffee table book distribution will be towards the end during the 50th anniv theme song.

aim: to distribute 600 books in 4 minutes

28 nov:


e student leadership board in the COE taking shape, but at e end of the day, we had to redo it due to unforseen circumstances. but anyway, we could say we had done our best.



cherie said she wanted the chihuahua for xmas. (*hint hint*) hahas

should i place an image/ collage abt 'Le Memories'(the video i made about the life story of --vech to the song of WTC john's apparition/resolution) ?

ppl, start tagging kk??

Difficult Feelings
by Ginger E. Blume, Ph.D.


As a young child, I heard adult’s caution, “Be careful or you’ll kill him with kindness.” When I tried to imagine what they meant, I pictured a person killing someone while they wore a sweet smile on their face. After hearing the phrase repeatedly for years, it lost its’ ability to capture my imagination. With luster worn off, I chalked it up to utter nonsense.

Only decades later did I come to understand the sage meaning behind this odd saying. Because the notion of “killing someone with kindness” is a mixed metaphor of opposites, its’ meaning was difficult to comprehend. Perhaps, to kill with kindness implied a clever deception or unexpected outcome. One is certainly left to wonder, “Can kindness really kill?”

I believe it can kill in at least three different ways. First, killing another with kindness may be done consciously with either a malicious or a positive intent. When the intent is secretive, it represents a conscious attempt to throw someone off track.

Remember the historical story of the Trojan Horse.” The large wooden horse was delivered as a gift – a gesture of kindness. However, inside the horse was an army, prepared to kill the enemy. As the horse was being rolled into Troy, the army was smugly waiting inside, secure in their deception. Counting on human nature to run its course, they knew a gift wouldn’t be refused and they were exactly right. Their “act of kindness” easily opened up the locked gates of Troy and the city was destroyed.
When kindness represents a conscious and positive intent to please, it can still kill another person. Perhaps, the saying that “too much of a good thing is bad,” explains how the tables can turn quite suddenly from good to bad. Have you every wanted to help someone so much, that you overwhelmed them with you helpfulness? Sometimes parents try so hard to protect their children from the harsher realities of life, that they over-protect and eventually harm their child’s development. When kindness is over done, it can kill.

Sometimes, a person genuinely believes his act of kindness is real. Unlike the Trojan Horse scenario, this person is misguided and uninformed about the nature of real kindness. As a psychologist, I’ve seen many people inadvertently “kill their loved one or their relationship with kindness.” Marriages fall apart because one or both of the partners has a mistaken idea of what kindness really is. For instance, sometimes a spouse attempts to protect their partner from some painful truth or upsetting event. This “protection” typically charades as a genuine act of kindness. The “killer” behaves as if s/he is being caring by virtue of keeping negative or troubling information from earshot of their loved one. You know the rationalization: “I didn’t want to upset you. I thought you had too many worries already. I was just trying to help you out.”

Unfortunately, by the time the deadly repercussion from such “kindness” occurs, it is so far removed from the original event that the crucial cause and effect connection is lost. Hence, the illusion of protecting someone via our act of kindness remains intact. Yet, stop and consider your own experience. How often have you personally felt “duped and hurt” by someone “protecting” you from some negative news? If this pattern of relating continues for any significant amount of time, the relationship begins to wither on the vine. Without the nurturing effect of trust, truth, and openness, the relationship eventually suffers.

Yes, kindness can and does kill relationships. Yet, rarely does the perpetrator of “kindness” recognize or acknowledge the damage done by his/her “positive act.” Sometimes the truth is lost because the “kind behavior” is actually a selfish act masquerading as a positive one. In this case, the deception is one of self-deception rather than misleading the other as to your true intent. We all know how easy it is to avoid talking about a difficult topic. It’s easy to convince yourself that the other person is probably better off not knowing what you know. In essence, your act of kindness is protecting you, while killing them!

And hear lies the paradox: a kind intent can cause damage to your significant relationship. If you do something with the conscious intent of saving a loved one some grief, you may be hurting the relationship more than you ever imagined. If you see yourself “killing your loved one with kindness” consider the effect of your behavior, rather than focusing on your positive intent. By focusing on how some acts of kindness can carry inside them a kernel of destruction, you’ll have a much better change of heeding this sage advice:

“If you’re not careful, you’ll kill them with kindness.”


and sorry to the one i unintentionally hurt, and if you are reading this, hopefully there wont be any misunderstanding btw us..

=((

A Definition of Unconditional Love



Author Unknown


"I love you as you are as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world, or the way you feel that is right for you. It is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you should be. I realize that I cannot know what is best for you although perhaps sometimes I think I do. I've not been where you have been, viewing life from that angle you have, I do not know what you have chosen to learn, how you have chosen to learn it, with whom or in what time period. I have not walked life looking through your eyes so how can I know what you need.

I allow you to be in the world without a thought or word of judgment from me about the deeds you undertake. I see no error in the things you say and do, in this place where I am. I see that there are many ways to perceive and experience the different facets of our world. I allow without reservation the choices you make in each moment.

I make no judgment of this for if I were to deny your right to evolution than I would deny that right to myself and all others. To those who would choose a way I cannot walk, whilst I may not choose to add my power and my energy to this way, I will never deny you the gift of love that God/dess has bestowed within me for all creation, as I love you so I shall be loved, as I sow, so I shall reap.

I allow you the universal right of free will to walk your own path, creating steps or to sit a while if that is what is right for you. I will make no judgment of these steps, whether they are large or small, nor light or heavy or that they lead up or down, for this is just my viewpoint. I see you do nothing and judge it to be unworthy and yet it may be that you bring great healing as you stand blessed by the light of God/dess.

I cannot always see the higher picture of divine order. For it is the inalienable right of all life to choose their own evolution and with great love I acknowledge your right to determine your future.

In humility I bow to the realization that the way I see is best for me does not have to mean that it is also right for you. I know that you are led as I am following the inner excitement to know your own path.

I know that the many races, religions, customs, nationalities and beliefs within our world bring us great richness and allow us the benefit of teachings of such diverseness. I know we each learn in our own unique way in order to bring that love and wisdom back to the whole. I know that if there were only one way to do something, there would need to be only one person. I will not only love you if you behave in a way I think you should, or believe in those things I believe in, I understand you are truly my brother and sister though you may have been born in a different place and believe in another God than I.

The love I feel is for all of God/ess world. I know that every living thing is part of God/ and I feel a love deep with every person, and all trees, and flowers, every bird, river, ocean and for all the creatures in all the world.

I live my life in loving service being the best me I can becoming wiser in the perfection of divine truth, becoming happier in the joy of unconditional love."